It's All About Preference

My heart is still in San Francisco ❤️🌁🌉

During the pandemic - there was a mass exodus out of San Francisco.

And even before Covid - people who had moved out asked me if I noticed how much SF had changed because of tech. They’d ask if I still like living here.

Friends moved for warmer weather. ☀️

Friends moved for better free schools for their kids. 📚🖍

Friends moved for more affordable housing - more bang for their buck! 💥💰

And tons of people never even wanted to live here in the first place-not their cup of tea. 🚫🫖

Some people are more into the mountains. 🏔

For some New Yorkers - SF is just not enough…

❤️I love San Francisco because I don’t like to be hot - love me some fog and cool bay breeze for my morning and evening walks.

❤️I love being able to walk a couple of blocks to grab a drink and dinner with my hubs or meet up with friends.

❤️I love being able to walk just a few minutes to Trader Joes or my dentist.

❤️I like the hustle and bustle.

We all have our preferences, likes, dislikes, desires, how we want to live our lives AND we all have the free will to exercise them!

Just because you may not like SF or choose to live somewhere else, doesn’t take away SF’s lovableness. It doesn’t make it a bad place to live.

And so it goes for dating & choosing your person.

When someone doesn’t choose us. When someone “opts out” of being with us. A lot of us make it mean all sorts of things ABOUT US. When really, it’s ALL ABOUT THEM.

It’s all about their preferences, likes, dislikes, and desires. And their free will.

San Francisco is not good or bad because other people choose to leave it or never live here in the first place. It’s not too much or not enough.

And we are not good or bad, too much or not enough, or unlovable when someone exercises their free will not to choose us. Their ability to love and appreciate us is ALL ABOUT THEM. Just like my ability to love me some SF, is all about me.