You Are Lovable

What’s not to love?

This is me as a baby bundled up in Brunswick, Maine.

If you went into the nursery the day of my birth, and looked at all the cute little new bundles of joy, would you think any were more lovable than another?

Was I more or less lovable because of that perfectly round head?

Was I more or less lovable because coming in at strong 9lbs 6oz I was by far the biggest baby in the bunch? Bigger is better, right?

Aren’t those just crazy and absurd questions to even entertain about newborns?

But as we grow up…

Through the years…

Somewhere along our way…

We think we have to do or be something to be lovable.

That we have to or need to prove our lovableness. Our worthiness.

Today is my birthday & I’m lovable just as much now as I was when I was a baby.

You are too.

We are all.

There is nothing we can do to make ourselves more or less lovable.

But sometimes I forget.

I’m guessing sometimes you forget too.

We all do.

Most days there is a tug in me to prove my lovableness.

To do something that I think will make me more lovable.

To be a way that proves I’m lovable.

To say yes to something I want to say no to - because I think it will make me more lovable.

To say no to something I want to say yes to because I’m scared it may impact my lovableness.

One of our biggest adventures, challenges, and learnings as humans on this planet is our relationship with ourselves.

Knowing we are all 100% lovable just as we are. Practicing our ability to love ourselves.

Just know our primal brain offers up thoughts about not being enough in an effort to prevent us from going after our dreams and goals - because what if we fail?

What if we get hurt?

What if we get rejected?

What if we get judged.

All these things our primal brain sees as a threat to our survival.

So.

The big question is:

Am I more or less lovable for having written this?

Ha!

Got you!

Trick question! ;).

Bet your mind answered it!

Whatever you think about this post doesn’t make me more or less lovable.

And that’s assuming you even read the darn thing! 🤣